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So, my wedding is canceled
and I couldn't be happier! Nick and I decided we were better off waiting until we could finance more of the wedding by ourselves, so it's postponed indefinitely. Well, more to the point, we realized there was just no real urgency to it. We've been engaged for years and years, but "just to get it over with" is a really crap reason to get married. Why not do it later in life, when we could have a real honeymoon?
I think for a lot of girls, it's this big deal, and they want the white wedding and the dress and the flowers and perfection and whatnot... I just never cared about any of that stuff. We had been planning a casual outdoor wedding but I realized in the end that all I really wanted was a big party where I could say goodbye to everyone on the east coast. So that's what we're doing instead! No more worrying and planning, and I don't need to stress about finding a dress...the next few months are going to be very relaxing.
Marriage would really just be a formality at this point, since we've been together nearly 7 years and have lived together for 5. It's kind of funny to think of us living perpetually "in sin". Actually, I read that that's becoming a more and more common arrangement with younger people. I don't mind, apart from the awkwardness of calling him my "fiance" for years and years and having everyone ask when the wedding is...maybe I should just switch to "partner" and be done with it.
Anyway I'm relieved, and to be honest I feel much less guilty now.. in my younger days I swore I wouldn't get married until marriage was an equal institution. Maybe I'll have my wish
I'm in a good mood today!
Love 
Although we've made the opposite decision. I've been holding out for years and years because I've always wanted that perfect, disney/fairytale/princess/barbie wedding and I'm sick of waiting. We're never going to have enough money to have the wedding I'd like, so I just want the damned papers now. I'd still like to get a nice dress for our trip down to the courthouse, but my family is poor. His family isn't but they're financially insecure *now* thanks to the economic downturn. So. Screw it. I'll be happy with a 20 dollar dress from target and a night at the Days Inn.
I've been dating my boyfriend for 5+ years, I live in Utah which is pretty conservative, and there's this weird phenomena where people get married after dating for only a few months. So lately I've been getting a LOT of crap for how long we've been dating. I'm 24 so apparently that's old lady time or something. I'm planning to move where he is now (Seattle), so we'll see how that goes. Hopefully people aren't as crazy there.
Anyway, I'm glad you're doing what you want.
It's good to hear you guys aren't stressing. For the last few years, I'd decided when Michael and I get married (it'll be 9 years this september!), we'll spend money on a honeymoon or a house rather than on a lavish/meaninglessly material wedding. Why get into debt over something that can be made sweet and simple? Why not spend that money on something you can use or have fun with (I bet there are so many people out there who could've put a down payment on a house if they'd not spent it on a wedding!).
At 22, you guys have plenty of time to worry about getting married. Michael and I are like 26 now though (and he's in a dangerous job) so we've been feeling kind of like marriage is something we need to do soon. Plus, there are benefits financially. I dunno, I'm trying not to rush it either. It's not something that's worth stressing over too much. You already have each other. You don't need a piece of paper to tell you that!
Hee, I've gotten some pretty strong "REALLY!?" reactions whenever I say my boyfriend and I have been going out for four years. We move at the pace of glaciers.
That said, I wouldn't want to marry him before moving in. I've got some weird habits and fixations, I want him to know what he's really in for so he can run for the hills without too much paperwork. XD