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So, my wedding is canceled
and I couldn't be happier! Nick and I decided we were better off waiting until we could finance more of the wedding by ourselves, so it's postponed indefinitely. Well, more to the point, we realized there was just no real urgency to it. We've been engaged for years and years, but "just to get it over with" is a really crap reason to get married. Why not do it later in life, when we could have a real honeymoon?
I think for a lot of girls, it's this big deal, and they want the white wedding and the dress and the flowers and perfection and whatnot... I just never cared about any of that stuff. We had been planning a casual outdoor wedding but I realized in the end that all I really wanted was a big party where I could say goodbye to everyone on the east coast. So that's what we're doing instead! No more worrying and planning, and I don't need to stress about finding a dress...the next few months are going to be very relaxing.
Marriage would really just be a formality at this point, since we've been together nearly 7 years and have lived together for 5. It's kind of funny to think of us living perpetually "in sin". Actually, I read that that's becoming a more and more common arrangement with younger people. I don't mind, apart from the awkwardness of calling him my "fiance" for years and years and having everyone ask when the wedding is...maybe I should just switch to "partner" and be done with it.
Anyway I'm relieved, and to be honest I feel much less guilty now.. in my younger days I swore I wouldn't get married until marriage was an equal institution. Maybe I'll have my wish
I'm in a good mood today!
Love 
I put no value in the religious aspect of marriage (I'm an atheist). The white dress and church and vows and all that schmaltzy fluff is strange. Ostentatiously unnecessary is the right phrase, I think. If I had the urge to get married (which I don't) I would get a civil marriage anyway and save all the money. Perhaps use it to go on an extra-special vacation? *shrug*
It all seems silly to me, and I've never understood the desire. I can understand wanting to marry because of pressure from peers and relatives, but honestly I think that's just an excuse for being an insecure pushover. Get married (or don't) because you want to, not because you think other people want you to or because it'll stop their pestering or bickering.
It's funny, over here being engaged and getting married in the early 20's is something that just isn't done that often. I'm 24 on Monday nad my Boyfriend is 25 and we've also been together 7 years this summer. We thought it was very strange when we on holidays to the States and kept getting asked if we were married
So anyway, I think you certainly have plenty of time. In all honesty, marriage is really only a legal practicality (but a pretty important one for the tax breaks etc I suppose)
Also small weddings FTW. If we ever get around to it I'd love to get hitched in Vegas!
It's also a personal thing, for close family and friends - there's no reason to invite your boss' sister's ex-husband unless he's a close friend. It's one day, and I never really understood why so much rested on it, especially if you've been living together already. It's a shitton of money, feeding a bunch of people, and for what? A ceremony that doesn't even apply as much to modern times?
You get married only if you want to. ^^ Whatever makes you happy.
*Sob* The east coast is going to miss youuuuuuu!;o;
Things like:
If you want to see a sunset at the beach you have to turn around and it kind of ruins the whole thing.
It always looks like we're getting bombed or something because of all the 'touch and goes' coming from the air force base.
The seagulls that threaten to steal any food you dare taunt them with by attempting to eat outside.
The frightening amount of people who don't know how to drive, yet own a car and use it regularly.
Those yummy boardwalk walk fries that you thought were covered in salt, but which turned out to have merely been coated in a fine layer of wind blown sand as you walked down said boardwalk.
And last but CERTAINLY not least, the wonderful, amazing, awesome people.